Our adventure with Hooked Weddings

A few weeks back, I was featured on Hooked Weddings, the brainchild of Denny Testa of Offbeet Weddings. I've known Denny's awesome-sauce photographer wife Kate since college- we're actually sorority sisters (Gamma Phi Beta ya'll!) and we've worked together on a few occasions. So when I heard about this great format for giving practical wedding planning advice in bite sized pieces, I knew I had to get in on it! 

We had an amazing few hours on a gorgeous morning, and what we got was 29 mini videos covering everything from budget, to what we do with your crazy ideas, to our philosophy behind planning weddings (that it's not a competition- I'mma keep saying it!)  Check out a few of our favorites!!  We had SO MUCH FUN- like no lie. And yes, we danced.

Want to check out all 29 videos?  You can find them here: http://hookedweddings.com/60-second-wedding-planning/

TME Tip Tuesday: Wedding Day Signage

Signage is such a fun way to add personality and detail to your wedding day, but it serves a great practical purpose as well. Proper signage can help guide your guests through the event smoothly and with little fuss. 

Example: If you're having a DIY photo booth, a well placed instructional sign can definitely assist the situation so that you don't have guests accidentally wrecking your stuff (ask me how I know...an extra set of hands to man the booth helps too!)

It's also super easy to create. Just work your instructions into single sentences or bullet points. Number them, and print on a piece of cardstock. Grab a table easel or a cute frame and you're all set.

Four crucial details you must nail down with your wedding vendors that you'd never think to ask

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Question: What are you wearing?

Why: Turns out, every vendor has a different idea of what is appropriate for a wedding. We have run into situations where a vendor shows up in an outfit that doesn't match the vibe of the event being serviced. To avoid embarrassment on all fronts, just ask ahead of time. 

Question: How many people are you bringing?

Why: This factors in to how many people you'll need to feed on your wedding day. Vendor meals can be a significant unexpected cost, especially when dealing with large groups of vendors like a 7 piece band. Most venues charge about half of your per-person cost for a vendor meal, so that can add a major chunk to your budget really fast.

Question: Does this price include travel fees/delivery/set up/additional fees?

Why: Sometimes they do, and sometimes they don't. Sometimes vendors don't ask about specifics until later, and that can mean extra fees take you by surprise. If you don't have specifics set yet, just make sure to set aside a certain amount for potential surprise costs.

Question: What time are you leaving?

Why: When you're signing your vendors, you're very likely not thinking about your day-of timeline and itinerary yet. As a result you may end up having vendors leave before major moments like the cake cutting, or in the case of a wedding I worked a few years ago, having the waitstaff leave before dessert was served. Talk about a logistical issue. Luckily we handled it all, but if this situation was planned properly, we would have been sure to have the waitstaff stick around to bus tables and breakdown for strike.

By asking these questions early on in the planning process, you'll avoid confusion and create clarity and open lines of communication. Happy Planning!

Announcing: TME Moved! Our new home in Princeton!

You guys!! I am so excited to share this with you. We have an office space!

This month, we moved into our new home in Princeton NJ. I cannot wait to meet you there!

Also, we're hosting via Facebook Live, a monthly Ask TME Anything Series. The first one is scheduled for Wednesday, May 31 at 1:30 pm.

Submit your questions to hello@thismomentevents.com or live on the event page. See you there!

Your Guide to Wedding Stationery, Start To Finish - with Basic Invite

Your Guide to Wedding Stationery, Start To Finish - with Basic Invite

If you are getting ready for your wedding festivities and are wondering what exactly goes into wedding stationery… I have answers! Lucky for you, I teamed up with Basic Invite just in time for wedding season to kick off! They let me in on what wedding stationery you will need start to finish.

Don't Hire your Wedding Day Manager until you Read These Tips

Don't Hire your Wedding Day Manager until you Read These Tips

So your wedding day is fast approaching, and you realize that you can’t actually play planner while you’re supposed to be getting married. Time to find a wedding day manager! When your planning process is almost done, these pros sweep in, check that all the i’s are dotted and t’s are crossed, so that you can have an amazing and stress free wedding day.

A wedding day mananger (sometimes called a day of coordinator, or simply, a wedding coordinator) is someone who helps tie up loose ends toward the end of your engagement period. They usually get involved between 6 weeks and 3 months beforehand, go over all of your wedding day details with a fine toothed comb and check for potential problems before they arise.

The Five Essential To-Dos you Forgot to Put on Your Wedding Planning List

The Five Essential To-Dos you Forgot to Put on Your Wedding Planning List

Planning a wedding and feeling like you might be forgetting something? With all of the details that go into planning a wedding, it is almost guaranteed that something will slip through the cracks, especially if you're doing it all yourself! Today I wanted to share five things that I've found essential to a successful wedding day, and that most couples tend to overlook, and how to get them done!

Your Wedding is NOT a Competition. Period.

It's Wedding Wednesday! And time for another #TMETip!

This one is a core part of the TME philosophy.  Your wedding is NOT a competition. Period, point blank, end of story.

Weddings are fun, and weddings are pretty.  Weddings are a great opportunity for friends and family who haven't seen each other in years to get together and spend time reminiscing about old memories and making a few new ones.  Your wedding is a great place for you and your fiance to showcase who you are and tell your story.

One thing your wedding is not, and never should be, is a competition. Let me repeat that for the people in the back. Your wedding is NOT a competition. It's not about doing it better than your cousin or your sister or your co-worker's best friend. It's not about impressing your father's boss. It's not about outspending your neighbors. As a planner, I see a lot of couples get caught up in the "This will be the most amazing _____ they've ever seen! So and so will be so jealous!" It's not about that.  It's a wedding. It's about getting married, and love and family.

There is a popular wedding reality show, that happens to be filmed in New Jersey a LOT. I've been contacted to submit couples to this show- and I never have. I don't even ask my couples about their opinion of it. Why? Wouldn't it be great publicity? Maybe, but my couples' weddings are not about me.  And I do not like the premise of having brides compare themselves to each other. Especially not on a day that is already fraught with emotion and tensions about what other people think. I just can't get into the idea of people judging someone's day like that. If the guests had a good time, and the couple had a great time, then it was a success, no?  There is something fundamentally wrong, in my opinion, with a media outlet that encourages women to judge each other. That liminal moment of becoming "wife" is so important to the formation of a new family- and I think women need and deserve support from other women in the same space as opposed to judgement.

It is hard to escape the temptation to compare your wedding to others- but you have to resist it. For your own sanity. Social media is a great place to find inspiration and ideas (I'm looking at you Pinterest!) and it's a wonderful place to connect with people - but don't be so quick to grab likes, and re-pins that you forget the whole point.  It is not about what other people think- it is about you, your fiance and your love.  Remember, comparison is the thief of joy.  Do not stress over the must haves and have tos. Keep the love and the celebration in focus, and you'll be just fine.  If it works for you, go for it, and I give you complete permission to forget the naysayers.

'Til next time- Keep Celebrating!

Note: This post is a re-write of one I did back in January 2014. I liked it so much I edited it for you. Enjoy!