Many people spend time imagining what their wedding day is going to be like -but once you’re in the thick of the planning, you may be wondering how you’re going to relax enough to get it all done. Many don’t realize how much hidden stress can come with putting together such an emotionally charged event. Maybe you’re overwhelmed by the sheer amount of stuff that needs to be done, or worse, the new and strange behavior of people you used to know so well!
If you’re reading this, it’s because you want to know if it’s possible to make it to the altar without losing your mind! Trust me, it is! In this series, we're going to cover the 5 wedding woes that will surely cause you to be a stressed out couple (and you might not even know you’re doing them!)
First Major Stress Point: You have no idea what you want.
If you’re recently engaged and looking to plan your dream wedding, it can be so easy to get overwhelmed. There are literally hundreds of wedding blogs, each emphasizing a different idea of what is hot, hip and now in the world of weddings. If you don’t know what your style is, what you really want to emphasize on your big day, it’s easy to get caught up spending money to plan a wedding that looks like everyone else’s. If you’re not sure what you’re really looking for, you may start booking before you’ve gotten a handle on things, and end up halfway through the planning and unhappy!
To avoid this, tackle your budget, guest list and priorities first! Get an idea of how many people you really want to host, how much cash you have to do so, and what the most important elements of the celebration are to you. Figure out what you want your day to feel like- how you want your guests to react- what you want the experience to say about your relationship. Start looking for inspiration everywhere- think about what you and your fiancé love to do, where you love to hang out, what really gets you going. Think about your favorite colors, foods, and flowers.
Once you’ve got your priorities straight, you can really dig into the planning. Shake it up, break some rules, make it your own! If you’re feeling a cozy, intimate, ski chalet vibe, you’ll want to look at smaller, rustic venues, probably with a winter date, and a smaller guest list. If you’re feeling more urban chic, with bolder colors, dramatic flair and a gala feel, then you’re looking at larger venues with an upscale modern bent. In that case your guest list could be larger.
Having your numbers and priorities in order makes the rest of the planning so much simpler because it sets the parameters. Knowing where to go helps you avoid overspending and making decisions you won’t be happy with in the end.
Next week on Wedding Wednesday- we'll tackle the next stress point- advice and expectations from family and friends!